Think about how you’ve been feeling. Then answer these questions:

  • do you feel sad or angry a lot?
  • are your grades going down because you feel so bad you can’t keep up?
  • are you avoiding spending time with friends? or quitting doing things you like to do?
  • do your parents/guardians or friends think you have “bad attitude”?
  • do you have problems with sleep? Like all you want to do is sleep or you just can’t sleep?
  • is your appetite changing- eating more than normal or not eating?
  • are you using drugs or alcohol?
  • are you hurting yourself? Like cutting or i.e. eraser burns
  •  do you wish that you weren’t here?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, it’s really important that you reach out for help.
You don’t have to feel this way. There is help available. 

When you are hurting it can be really hard, impossible, to take care of yourself, no matter how old you are.

It can feel like you are all alone. You might be scared that you’re weird or a freak.

Growing up is difficult, and life isn’t always easy. But you aren’t alone, and you have lots of people in your life who care about you and want to help you, even if it doesn’t seem like it right now. You aren’t weird or a freak. Everyone has problems. Everyone hurts sometimes. And everyone needs help sometimes.

You’re worried about your friend. Our advice is the same, reach out for help.
Don’t worry about hurting their feelings.  Don’t worry about them getting mad at you.  It’s our job to watch out for our friends; help each other out.

Confide in a friend or family member

Your friends and family are the people who want to see you succeed the most, even if you’ve recently had a fight or falling out with some of them. Don’t hold a grudge and dismiss texting a favorite aunt or an older friend about how you are feeling. In fact, they may have felt the same way at one time in their own lives.

Visit your school’s counseling center

If you aren’t comfortable talking with a friend or family member about some issues you’re having, seeking out your school guidance counselors is a great way to get things off your chest. Your school counselors are highly educated to help you and your friends with issues like depression, anxiety and other issues.

National Suicide Hotline

You should never feel as though you cannot turn to anyone for help, especially if you are repeatedly thinking about harming yourself. Call the National Suicide Hotline at
800-273-8255 to talk with someone about your struggles. It’s anonymous and available 24/7.


You can also dial ‘211’ to be connected to a local organization that can help you, or click here for a list of resources in North Dakota and western Minnesota.